Are you and your spouse arguing more and more as your marriage goes on and you are asking yourself "how do I deal with conflict in my marriage?" Well the first thing that needs to happen to gain an understanding of what conflict is basically. Conflict is defined as a "collision or disagreement" according to Dictionary.com. Conflict is a very broad term that can range from a small disagreement to all out war. And in this situation you need to understand that your marriage is NOT in a state of war. It is in a state of disagreement. That being said, both you and your spouse need to find a way to bring your marriage back to a state of peace.