If you want to save your marriage and stop a divorce, I would like to call you my friend. The first reason for that is, I have been in that exact situation and I know how horrible you feel at the moment. The second reason is that I congratulate you for trying to stop a divorce. The majority of all marriages (87%) fail, and it's because marriage needs self sacrifice which people are too selfish to provide - it's just easier to say "it's not working" and end the holy bond that is meant to unify two people until eternity.