Effective Communication in Relationships - Speak Respectfully & Directly

Have you ever started an innocent conversation with someone only to have it disintegrate into anger or frustration? We sometimes try to pinpoint where it all went wrong; but a more useful starting point may be, "What can I do to prevent it?" Following are "ground rules" that can be helpful in any interaction. The focus here is on the speaker role and, in particular, those talks in which you need to address an area of conflict, a sensitive topic, or something that bothers you. By "speaker role" I mean times when you have a complaint against someone as opposed to those situations when someone's pointing out a problem he has with you.