I Had an Affair - How Do I Say I'm Sorry to My Wife and Have Her Believe Me?

Most of the emails that I get are from women who have been cheated on. But, occasionally, I will get a man who has cheated and who is asking for my advice on how to make things right. Such was the case the other day. I had a husband who had cheated on his wife and who now completely and totally regretted it. He was desperate to find a way to make his wife believe that it was a one time thing that would never happen again and to convince her to hang in there and to work with him to save the marriage. Of course, the wife was in no mood to hear all of his apologies and requests. She wanted the time and distance to hear herself think, but he was afraid to give this for fear that she might just decide to cut her losses and leave him. Since my own experience lies with being the cheated on, I was more sympathetic to the wife. However, it was very clear that the husband was completely remorseful and genuine. I did want to help. I'll share the advice that I gave him in the following article.